What to do when the thing doesn’t happen but you don’t know what the reason is yet

I feel like I’m constantly saying “everything happens for a reason.” I feel like everyone knows this is true but it’s always worth the reminder. HOWEVER, I honestly hate hearing this when I’m bummed that something didn’t go my way. The past couple years, I have been learning about myself and how to a. allow myself to have emotions and b. learn how to deal with said emotions. Here is my gif illustrated guide to dealing with the negative, bummed out ones:

*Disclaimer* the timeline for this is going to be different for every person and every situation.

  • FIRST AND FOREMOST (seriously cannot stress how important this one is), allow yourself to feel everything you need to feel. Cry, scream, sulk, etc. Be sure to make alone time for your bad mood ASAP.gene life difficult.gif
  • Once you think you’ve rid the bad mood, do something to release endorphins in healthy ways. I like to go for a long run, call a friend, listen to my favorite songs, meditate, and look at inspirational quotes on Pinterest (not particularly proud to admit that one). chris traeger despair.jpg
  • And since life is all about balance… I think it’s important to release in maybe not the most healthy ways. Some of my favs are dancing my ass off during a night out with friends, shopping, comfort food – in my case curry, and sitting in front of the tv for an entire day.yall stressing me out marg.gif
  • Tame your mind, but not to much.When I start thinking negatively about myself and/or whatever I’m going through, I switch my thinking back to me. The important thing to do is keep your focus on yourself and what you have going now, what you have already accomplished/experienced, and what you have to look forward to.
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  • DO NOT try to push the feelings away or bottle them up. It will never, ever work. You’ll end up exploding at some point. feels
  • Because this will inevitably happen, forgive yourself for taking it out on people who don’t deserve it. Everyone snaps sometimes, learn from it and move on.bitchy.gif
  • Rinse and repeat until you can slay again.

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2 thoughts on “What to do when the thing doesn’t happen but you don’t know what the reason is yet

  1. Some of this reminds me of a helpful thing I read from an old 19th century Scottish preacher/writer of fairy tales named George MacDonald:

    “Afterwards I learned, that the best way to manage some kinds of painful thoughts, is to dare them to do their worst; to let them lie and gnaw at your heart till they are tired; and you find you still have a residue of life they cannot kill.”

    Good stuff Morrieburg! 🙂

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